Archive for the ‘Mental Health’ Category

I want to go back to school!

18 Jan

ideasgarden-best-feelgood-film-of-the-year award!

Made by the Friends School, Lisburn.


A Word of Encouragement from William B. Yeats

12 Dec

What Then?

HIS chosen comrades thought at school
He must grow a famous man;
He thought the same and lived by rule,
All his twenties crammed with toil;
‘What then?’ sang Plato’s ghost. ‘What then?’

Everything he wrote was read,
After certain years he won
Sufficient money for his need,
Friends that have been friends indeed;
‘What then?’ sang Plato’s ghost. ‘ What then?’

All his happier dreams came true —
A small old house, wife, daughter, son,
Grounds where plum and cabbage grew,
poets and Wits about him drew;
‘What then.?’ sang Plato’s ghost. ‘What then?’

The work is done,’ grown old he thought,
‘According to my boyish plan;
Let the fools rage, I swerved in naught,
Something to perfection brought’;
But louder sang that ghost, ‘What then?’

William Butler Yeats


De-Vuvuzelate me, Baby

18 Jun

Some helpful lads in Queen Mary’s University in London have come up with a clever piece of software which “de-Vuvuzelates” your telly signal, rendering impotent that irritating drone which accompanies all world cup matches.

In case you’ve managed to somehow avoid all the excitement, the drone is caused by an incredibly loud and irrating plastic horn blown at football matches by everybody in South Africa: the Vuvuzela.  The effect on telly is like a swarm of angry wasps hanging just outside your living room door.

The catch is, you need to be watching the world cup on your computer using software that can use the plugin.  Still, we applaud the effort. First Ever Person to Change Their Name to a Website!

27 Aug

Claire Forshaw of Manchester has changed her name by deed poll to, in the process become the first person ever to change his/her name to a website.


Claire, 24, decided to change her name when she was drunk one night and because “it would be a laugh and it only costs a tenner”.  She plans to sell her art from the site and the story has got her lots of interviews and attention.

The bank had no problem using her new name; Facebook refused, however.

See more here.


Bill Gates Hates Facebook

10 Aug

billgates“Facebook performed an illegal operation and should be shut down” said Bill Gates speaking on a recent tour to India.

Bill signed up and promptly got 10,000 requests to be his “friend”, which he admits overwhelmed him.  He especially found the process of reviewing new friend requests too arduous.  I wonder how far he got?

Read the full story here.


One in five kids will be approached online by a sexual predator.

06 Aug

A startling statistic from Common Sense Media.  Other “Media Mythbusters” published include:


  • 80% of TV commercials are for fast food, candy, cereal and toys.
  • Kids see more than a quarter of a million commercials aimed at their appearance by age 17, with the result that The number one wish for girls ages 11 to 17 is to be thinner; boys 11 to 17 want a physical ideal that can only be achieved through steroid use.
  • Watching a lot of sexual content on TV greatly increases the chance that a teen will have sex at an earlier age.
  • 1 hour of TV per day are 4 times more likely than other teens to commit aggressive acts in adulthood.
  • By the time kids reach middle school, they will have seen 8,000 murders and 100,000 violent acts of violence on TV alone.

See the full article here.


It IS Your Fault

20 Apr

Written by Clay Collins on his inspiring blog

Read the full post here:

One of the most “successful” phrases in the history of direct sales copywriting is this: “it’s not your fault.”

Fortunes have been made with this phrase.

Billions of dollars have been collected by telling people that their obesity, their poverty, their unhappiness, their dysfunctional relationship patterns aren’t their fault (and then selling them the “cure” that can fix everything).

There are all kinds of reasons why you don’t follow your deepest purpose.

Let’s see . . .

  • Your passion might a require a large commitment of time and money (and and then fail)
  • There’s uncertainty in starting a venture or launching a product
  • You might fail and look like a loser in front of your spouse, children, and family (who didn’t think you’d make it in the first place)
  • You’re afraid that if you follow your passion, you won’t be able to feed and house your family
  • You’re afraid it’s going to take a LONG time before you reach profitability
  • You don’t want to be in your mid-forties, driving a shitty car, and living in two-bedroom apartment with your family
  • You’re afraid that you’ll end up a bum in the street, destitute, and in debt with no savings, no food, and no health insurance
  • You’re afraid that you’ll be left out in the cold with no security
  • You’re afraid that if you leave your job and start doing what you were born to do, that it will flop and you’ll have to re-enter the job force in a bad economy and that you’ll won’t be able to compete with younger guys who learn faster and will work for less money
  • You’re afraid you’ll lose your house
  • You’re scared about having enough money for retirement

Well, I have news for you. . .

. . . you might not have unlimited money, but you do have unlimited resources.

Your time IS now…..

Great stuff! Read the full article at


Brilliant example of mentally engaging with a physical problem

17 Apr

An excerpt from one of my favourit blogs,  Havi, the author, works with her own sore arms.  This sort of engaging with physical symptoms using dialog and logical reasoning was a breakthrough in modern psychotherapy and can yield dramatic results.  Often found in the world of hypnotherapy.


The Fluent Self


Tension. Attention.

Posted: 16 Apr 2009 08:55 AM PDT

NOTE: If you’re one of the people who write in because you’re completely confused by the “what’s going on with Havi’s arms?!” question, so am I. Sorry.

The short answer is that it’s some sort of stuckified chronic pain that was originally doing a pretty decent imitation of carpal tunnel or repetitive-stress-ish stuff, but isn’t. All I can tell you is that it involves my body talking to me about internal stuff going on. A lot.

We’re making progress with it. I’m learning. It’s healing. My arms are going to be fine. Just give us time.

Chasing the pain.

The pain in my arms is moving. Migrating, really.

It started in my hands and wrists and then spent several weeks inching up my arms until it found its winter hibernation home — and then it settled in for a bit.

From about two inches (5 cm) above the wrist to two inches (5 cm) above the elbow. That’s where it wanted to do its agonizing thing. And that’s where I’ve been working on it.

But lately the pain has been on the move again. I can’t tell if it’s running away or just chasing some confused dream of Manifest Destiny. Either way, it now starts about mid-tricep and goes up to the shoulder joint.

And it’s talking. It has a lot to say.

An astonishing piece of information.

The scene: on the massage table. Chris (my wonderful massage therapist) is working on my arms, and I’m trying to relax.

Me: Hey, arms? Is there anything you need from me while we’re getting this massage? Something I can do to help you relax?
Arms: No relaxing! You can’t make us!
Me: Wow. Okay. You don’t have to relax if you don’t want to. It sounds like this is really worrying you. What’s going on? Can you tell me more about this?
Arms: Relaxation is bad. Period. No discussion.

And then I had to stop and think for a bit, because I didn’t want to accidentally step on my arms’ toes — which makes no sense, I know.

It’s just that I didn’t want the conversation to end by me saying something that would make my arms think that I’m not really listening and that I don’t really care. Because then they clam up and don’t talk at all.

And at the same time, I was completely confused. Really? Relaxation is bad?

All these years that I’ve been teaching yoga and meditation… and leading — wait for it — guided relaxation exercises… there has been a part of me that thinks that relaxation is bad?

I mean, I freaking love relaxation. I have more (and better) tricks than anyone I know for magically calming down and for getting into a quiet, safe space.

But if I’ve learned anything about anything, then it’s that if you want to find out what’s really going on, you have to be willing to drop all the things you think are true. Or, you know, at least some of them …

So I just have to ask …

Me: Okay. I’m willing to accept that relaxation could be a bad thing. I get that you have strong opinions on this, and I’m sure you have completely legitimate reasons for knowing what you know.
Arms: Well, yeah. Hmph.
Me (trying for the most neutral tone I can come up with): What happens when we relax? What is the bad part of relaxation?
Arms: Oh. Relaxation is bad for you. When you relax, you let your guard down and then you get hurt. People take advantage of you.
Me: What are you talking about?
Arms: (they provide me with about twenty examples of different situations, in the form of various memories)
Me: Oh.
Arms: All that bad stuff? We’re not letting that happen to you again. We are not going to let you get hurt again.


Me: Ohhhhhhhhhhh. Oh. You want to take care of me. You want to keep me from getting hurt.
Arms: Well, yeah.
Me: Every single time. All my pain and all my fear and all my stuck. It’s always about protection and safety. It’s always about these really good intentions that accidentally produce horribly painful results. This is amazing.
Arms: Just don’t relax, okay? Don’t let down your guard.
Me: Ohmygod. It’s the vigilance thing again.
Arms: Don’t relax. Please……..

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Feel-good Video!

17 Apr

Can’t help but get a good buzz going when I have a listen of this:


How to better manage your critical inner voice

24 Mar

This was written by Janet Bailey of the Mindful Time Management Blog – a brilliant idea!

The power of the split screen

Years ago, when I was making my living mainly from freelance writing, I tried an experiment to help me cope with my brutal internal editor. (The one who was immobilizing me, oh, every third word or so.)

I opened a separate window on my computer screen, just for writing down what I was saying to myself every time I got stuck.

For the next few hours, I toggled back and forth between manuscript and self-talk. Turns out (no big surprise) that when I got stuck, it was usually not just because I was struggling to find the right words.

I was also saying to myself things like, “This is impossible.”  “I don’t have enough information.”  “It’s hopeless.”  “I can’t finish.”  “It will never work.”

Trapped in my mind, those thoughts typically drove me into the kitchen for a sugar fix, or pretty much anywhere other than the computer where I was mired in the apparent, and repeated, hopelessness of the situation…..

Read the full article at Mindful Time Management Blog